FORKS

We all have heard the expression by Yogi Berra “when you come to a fork in the road, take it”. Have you ever thought about the number of forks that you have come to in your life? I spent countless hours reliving my past. Wishing I made a different decision.These hours accumulated into days, months and even years. Thinking about what I could have done differently led me into a deep unconscious depression. I was living in the present physically while my mind and soul were in the past. Now I do not live in the past, nor doI live in the future. I live in the moment. I am finally finding peace.

Since birth we are faced with hundreds if not thousands of forks a day. Forks referring to choices or decisions. What I wear, what I eat are small forks. Bigger forks would include, should be friends with this person or that person. What I’m doing this weekend. To the gigantic decisions: should I marry him or her, what college should I go to, where do I want to live. These are all forks that we deal with every day. I believe each person throughout their lives will have accumulated an unthinkable amount of forks if they were given a fork everytime that they made a decision. Hold on, let me google how many choices a person makes in a day. Google says that the brain makes 35,000 decisions daily. Multiply that by 365 in a non-leap year and you have made 12,775,000 decisions a year. The brain is remarkable therefore Google is remarkable, and do not confuse the reality in that statement. Oftentimes we give a man-made tool more appreciation then the man/woman who created it.
What is my point? Exactly! Every decision counts. Every decision not only changes your life, it changes the structure of the entire universe. Let me explain a story. When I was 25 years old I was looking for a job. I had a college degree, a clean record and could not find a job. I searched the newspaper and applied to every job possible. I was still unemployed! The year was 1997 and I could not even get a job as a paraprofessional in schools. I was subbing, but the school was not hiring. Mind you they only paid like 8 bucks an hour, still I could not find a full time position. I decided to visit a college friend of mine one day. I got lost. This was before GPS, and even the tom tom navigation system. This was the…make a right on this street, a left on this street, then go past three lights and turn left ETC time period. I went there an hour later than I was supposed to. Due to me being that late, when I arrived my friend and I went to leave. We crossed paths with my friend’s neighbor. I was introduced to him and we started to talk and the topic of jobs came up. There was my lead. A week later I was hired and I am here in the position I am in today. Without that accordance, I would not be here.

Every decision counts and may or may not alter your life forever. It is really that simple, yet extremely complex. You could be leaving your home and dropping your keys. The two seconds you take to pick them up could save your life. You will never know how the smallest decision could have the largest impact. If you did not go to that party, you would have not met your husband, or got that DUI. Yes it is that real. At age 50 I feel I have less choices to make. At some point we will make our last choice and die. That is not really a choice that is a guarantee. It’s a matter of how and when. Like birth we don’t have a choice. I would also say as babies and infants we do not have many choices. However as each day goes by even a toddlers decision making comes into play.
When I was depressed I allowed my mind to second guess the BAD choices that I made. I was stuck in the poor choice and not trying to move forward. I still think about decisions I made. The difference today is, I do not try to change what I did, I use it as a lesson and move forward with more awareness and knowledge. I was listening to Dr.William li on the Ed Mylett show and he said something that confirmed my current belief system. He was discussing how the human body copies itself and makes 10,000 mistakes genetically daily. Even if the rate of the mistake was 1% over time that would add up to 1000 of mistakes. Learn from your mistakes, you are going to make them and you will continue to make them. Hopefully you learn how not to make the same exact mistake over and over and over. I did for years because I was living in the past where I made those mistakes.
I have learned to accept everything I have been giving in life. Good, bad and neutral. Without everything I have been through, and I mean everything. I would not be the person I am today. Even more compelling, changing one circumstance could result in me not even being here at this present time. Which also would have a result on the world as we know it. Think of you in the world as cells. Our body has 100 trillion cells. Each one makes up who we are. When we lose cells we do not even notice it because we still look the same and feel the same. However, you are different just like if I live today or die today the entire world may not be noticeably affected nevertheless it is affected. Are you still with me!

You cannot ponder over each fork you come in your journey. Trial and error will be the dominant factor on how we navigate through life. Whether you take the road least traveled or the popular choice along that road you will have to make a countless number of decisions and with each your life will be changed forever. The right choice can lead to a bad result and the wrong choice could yield a positive outcome. Such is life. It is an unpredictable opportunity to learn, grow and inspire. Add to it, just don’t take from it!

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Wakime Hauser